Step 1 – Stop Talking About Your Problems

Welcome to 7 Steps to a Better Relationship video series. I look forward to presenting these to you. I will support you in any way I can in having the relationship you’ve always wanted. With practice you can turn these suggestions into graceful habits in your life. You’ll be glad you did.

This first step has to do with how you think about and speak about your relationship. Do you think of it as a problem, a source of disappointment? There is a lot of happiness to be gained by changing the way you think and speak about your partner, your situation and your life.

Step 2 – Where You Place Your Focus

This video has to do with where you place your focus in your relationship and in your life. Practicing what I suggest in this video will have a profound effect on how you feel about your partner and about your life in general. In the Powerful Partnerships Private Weekend Couples Course, I show you how to become more masterful at controlling what your mind chooses to focus upon. This video will certainly get you started in the right direction.

As I mentioned previously, with practice you can turn these suggestions into graceful habits in your life. You’ll be glad you did.

Step 3 – The Value of Ritual

This one is about the value of creating ritual in your life, things that you regularly do with your partner that make your relationship special. Over time, these rituals help you to deepen the intimacy you feel with your partner and become an important way for you to put your relationship first. Setting a special time aside to be together and do things together has a very beneficial effect on your relationship.

I hope you’ve had a chance to practice some of these suggestions and have found them as helpful as my wife and I have. If your relationship is already great, I can show you how to keep it that way. If it used to be great, you can learn how to get back the feelings you once had.

Step 4 – The Healing Power of Listening

This one is about healing power of listening. One of the nicest things you can do for another person is to listen to them. If they see that that another person really understands how they feel and what they are experiencing, they can often release what is bothering them. When you really listen, you create a safe space for your partner to express what is on his or her mind and your partner will come to love you for that.

Step 5 – Giving and Receiving Love

This step is about about the different ways that people feel loved and the ways that they express love when they feel it. Everyone is different in this regard so it’s important to find out what your partner perceives as loving behavior.

There are 4 basic ways that people feel love and share love. They do it by: (1) using terms of endearment, (2) doing things for the other person, (3) making physical contact e.g., touching, holding hands, hugging, finding the other sexually attractive, and (4) giving gifts, cards, remembering birthdays and anniversaries, etc. I recommend that you find out what your partner considers loving and do those things when you feel love towards him or her. I also recommend letting your partner know where you stand on these four areas. Your efforts are more apt to be well received if you do.

Step 6 – Nourish Your Mind

This video is about becoming more discriminating about what we allow inside our heads. Just as we have become more discerning about the foods that we eat and the air and water that we consume, so should we pay attention to what we are allowing to enter our minds. Many of the thoughts we think, the news we watch and conversations we listen to have a stronger impact on us than we first realize. We are the gatekeepers of the information that comes to us and at us. It might be time to wake up and notice the effect this exposure has on our relationships, our moods and our attitudes. I think it’s worth thinking about.

Step 7 – Creating a Safe Space for Love

This final video has to do with making your home and your relationship feel safe. Not just physically protected but having it feel like a safe place emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually. Does your partner feels safe to make a mistake, say how he or she really feels or just be in a bad mood? The safer you can make your relationship the easier it will be to deepen the love between you.

I hope you enjoyed this video series as much as I enjoyed making and presenting it. If you liked what you saw, please share them with your friends and family. After all, a better relationship is one incredible gift to give.

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